Are you happy in the NOW?
Do you reminisce on the past and wish you could relive those moments?
Are you waiting for the future when all your dreams come true?
We tend to struggle to live completely in the present, to appreciated what we currently have and not dwell on what has been or what is yet to come.
Too many times have I heard, and said myself, “I will be happy when…” as if the future holds onto the happiness and I have to live in misery, or at least some cousin of unhappiness until I get there. But the thing is you will never be happy ‘when…’
Lets say you accomplish all your goals, that you are living your dream life; do you really believe you will be 100% authentically happy? Or will there still be something missing? Something else to work towards or crave? Something else to place your happiness on that is currently out of reach?
You can not be happy unless you work on being happy now. Until you find a way of feeling at peace with who you are and what you have. Now that’s not to say you cant hope and dream and work towards more, of course you can, you don’t have to settle, however you do have to find a happiness in the now in order to have happiness in tomorrow.
As the saying goes “tomorrow never comes” so don’t waste time waiting for something that you could discover in the here and now. The future is full of endless possibilities but the truth of the matter is; no one knows what it will bring. You could achieve everything you’ve ever longed for, your dreams and desires could change, you might not progress from where you are and you could even never see another day. Morbid as it may be; it’s true. We have no clue what the future with throw at us, no way of knowing how we will respond and react in those moments, all we know is we are where we are right now so lets work on our happiness in the NOW.
How do I work on my happiness in the NOW?
Everyone is different and what might work for some may not work for others, so it’s really about exploring your personal preferences and discovering your own pockets of happiness and how to bring them out when you need them.
Try to be in the moment. Relax your mind. Concentrate on something around you. Give it your attention. Think of what you see, hear, touch, taste and smell, experience them and live in those thoughts for a minute or two.
Breathe. It’s simple but it works. Taking a few moments to just focus on your breathing, to clear the thoughts from your head, maybe with your eyes closed, can be a great way to centre yourself and be in the now.
Get creative. Doodle. Paint. Draw. Sketch. Bake. Cook. Sew. There are a plethora of things you can do to let your creative juices out. Not that creative? It doesn’t matter, you don’t have to be doing it for any particular purpose, you don’t have to share it with anyone else, but you may find some enjoyment in just letting a little bit of creativity flow out of you. Just see what happens and where it takes you.
Be grateful. List, either on paper, out loud or in your head, what you are grateful for. You can start small with say 3-5 things and over time push yourself to 10 and then 20+ things you are grateful for. It can be something as simple as the weather that day, of the fact you have air in your lungs. You can be grateful for others in your life, opportunities that you have been given, even your own personal traits. Nothing is too big or too small to have gratitude thrown its way. Practicing gratitude allows you to live in the now instead of longing for the future.
Once you allow yourself to live in the NOW you can figure out what things are best serving you and what is not. You can adapt and grow rather than hold on to something or someone else to be your source of happiness.
I’m sorry to say that you wont find true happiness when you…
“get that promotion”
“lose that weight”
“have that relationship”
“buy your first house”
“go on the holiday of a lifetime”
True happiness can only come when you work on the NOW. Those milestones may bring you joy for a moment but that joy may soon be lost unless you have taken time to be present, grateful and happy without those things at your fingertips.
So enjoy reminiscing on the past, learn from it’s lessons and appreciate the memories. Dream of a future that fills you with fire and know you are capable of whatever you put your whole self into. But know happiness doesn’t live in the past nor in the future, its lives in the now. So breathe it in, live in the moment and discover what your happiness can be.
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